320 days to meltdown
Well it's beginning... Wedding stress is already taking me over. I can honestly say I understand why Jennifer Wilbanks (the runaway bride) did what she did. The pressure is unbelievable.
I've just started and have already made a mess of things with the photographer. Add lack of sleep, pushy vendors, and a misguided attempt to NOT spend a lot of time worrying over details; and you end up getting played like I did.
Now I'm trying to gracefully back out of a contract without coming off looking like a complete moron. Really I only have myself to blame, and that's why I'm so upset. I've learned something I hadn't thought of before.
Anything.. ANYTHING that goes wrong or is sub par will be MY fault, MINE!
No matter how helpful JR (or anyone else) tries to be, ultimately I am the one doing the research and making all the decisions. I was totally unprepared for the stress and pressure that fact would bring me.
So now I have lost all confidence and am scared to make any decisions (exactly what I wanted to avoid.) I am a rational person and realize that everything isn't going to be perfect, and I can't make everybody happy- but that doesn't keep me from suffering from bouts of self doubt and fear.
So for all you unmarried females out there please understand something I am just now learning... your wedding day is NOT really your day at all. Sure you'll get lots of attention and everyone will fawn over you, but if the music sucks or the flowers are wilted it's because of the people you hired. Stick THAT in your pipe and suck on it ladies!
I've just started and have already made a mess of things with the photographer. Add lack of sleep, pushy vendors, and a misguided attempt to NOT spend a lot of time worrying over details; and you end up getting played like I did.
Now I'm trying to gracefully back out of a contract without coming off looking like a complete moron. Really I only have myself to blame, and that's why I'm so upset. I've learned something I hadn't thought of before.
Anything.. ANYTHING that goes wrong or is sub par will be MY fault, MINE!
No matter how helpful JR (or anyone else) tries to be, ultimately I am the one doing the research and making all the decisions. I was totally unprepared for the stress and pressure that fact would bring me.
So now I have lost all confidence and am scared to make any decisions (exactly what I wanted to avoid.) I am a rational person and realize that everything isn't going to be perfect, and I can't make everybody happy- but that doesn't keep me from suffering from bouts of self doubt and fear.
So for all you unmarried females out there please understand something I am just now learning... your wedding day is NOT really your day at all. Sure you'll get lots of attention and everyone will fawn over you, but if the music sucks or the flowers are wilted it's because of the people you hired. Stick THAT in your pipe and suck on it ladies!
posted by SassyJill at 6:18 PM
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I was going to say, not too long now, but then I read the title of your post.. 320 days.. OUCH!
Hang in there!
Huh?
When did the emphasis shift from plighting a troth to a perfectionist's entertainment ideal?
ok- I'm trying
b- I know, the day is REALLY about JR and I. And I'm not the perfectionist (hence why I rushed into a bad deal) but unfortunatly people can be ultra critical when it comes to weddings.
Hmmm... I seem to remember writing a post about this very thing shortly after you got engaged. I believe I implored -- nay, BEGGED -- you to elope. I think I said cruise ship, or Vegas, or go get Maui-ed... ANYTHING but plan a big who-ha like I did. Ah, but my advice is seldom followed. 25 years of knowing me and you'd think you would have learned to take my advice by now ;)
Ah, but I will help any way I can. Just let me know babe and I will be at your service. And, if ever Mom gets on your nerves and you start looking for someone willing to punch her in the face for you let me know -- I've kinda been looking for an excuse to do that for ages (ah, but I jest... mostly).
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